vent

no pics this time, just a story. we just got back from a park date with Carter's friends, Logan and Noah and we had a little incident i need to share with all you moms out there. we got to the park a bit before our friends did so i sat on a bench with Anderson while Carter began to play with his sand toys in the sand. he had parked himself near another little guy's toys but that little guy was off playing in a different area with one of his care givers and his grandma was sitting on a bench close by. (i was on a different bench) i, as Carter's mom, know that of course Carter is eyeing the other boy's sand toys as one of them was a ride-on car. i don't think the grandma was completely aware of that, though she may have been. anyway, this woman began speaking to Carter and even approached him and her tone was a little more aggressive than i liked so i didn't respond like i usually do to strangers who are appreciating my child. i gave her a few nods and smiles when she would make comments, which by the way were typical "i know children because i've had two" responses. those totally bug me because every child is a tiny bit different and she clearly didn't know mine at all, though she thought she did. she was saying things to Carter like 'why don't you dig with your shovel there,' and 'how about going to play on the slide,' and 'do you want to swing?' he was being a little shy and pouty which he usually is with strangers, though this time he was more so than usual. the woman looked at me and told me he wasn't happy and that it was probably because he didn't like sharing with his brother. hello? did she notice that 1) Anderson was not in the sand with him and 2) she was a stranger talking to a 2 year old? the irony of her sharing comment will be clear in a few minutes as you read. anyway, I put Anderson in the stroller and went and sat with Carter because I felt a little protective and a little annoyed that this woman was paying a little too much attention to him without being interested in his little 2 year old feelings if that makes any sense. after a few minutes of me sitting with him and talking with him and a few other grandmas and their kids wandering over, Carter was brave enough to sit on the car, the little owner of it was no where near still, so I figured no harm done. most people like to share their toys at the park, in my experience. Carter didn't even move the toy from its position and wasn't abusing it in any way, he was just sitting on it while the grandmas made conversation about their similarily aged grandchildren. probably no more than 3 minutes later the same grandma said to me in her same aggressive tone "are you going to move him or am i?" nodding in Carter's direction. i was stunned and probably looked it, too and asked 'why?' she said 'because he likes to put sand in it,' speaking of her grandchild who still wasn't even close to the toy. i just picked Carter up from the car and told him we had to get off and go to the other side of the park. i didn't have the guts to make a response about how we teach our children how to share by actually sharing, though i wanted to so so so bad. luckily, Logan and his mom were strolling over just at that moment and we walked to the other side of the play area, but wow i was so upset i was shaking. i'm still really really bugged? am i out of my mind to be so bugged?